The Best Advice I Received as a New Mom

Any new mom will tell you that there is an abundance of information and advice out there. It's almost overwhelming. There's way too many people who think they have the answer. As I enter my sixth month of motherhood, I'm realizing that no one truly knows it all. Even if they look like they have their shit together, they don't.If I had to weed through all the crap and find the best advice I've received so far it would be that every baby is an individual, and every mom is an individual and what works for one baby or mom, may not work for another. At the end of the day, if you realize that, then you, Mama, are doing a good job.Like a lot of new moms, I joined Facebook groups and read message boards about how to relieve gas, feeding issues, sleeping tips, and everything in between. But instead of feeling comforted by other moms, I felt overwhelmed and undereducated. It felt like everyone had an answer besides me. I remembered feeling the same way about wedding planning. I was so eager to start choosing colors and deserts and music, but it all got to be a little too much. There was information overload, and I just don't do well with that.So, I took a step back and tried to laugh it all off. Is Finn healthy? Yes. Is he growing? Yes. Does he sleep well? Yes. Is he overall a happy baby? Yes. So why am I looking elsewhere for the answers? Clearly, I was doing something right... right? At the end of the day, Finn, David and I are all going through this stuff for the first time. And even when we have another baby, we will have to treat him or her like an individual, because they won't be Finn. The best thing I've done for my sanity and my family is to do what works for us. I still need advice, of course, but instead of searching the internet, I turn to my mom and my older sister, and of course, our pediatrician.The other day one of our friends commented on how Finn must be such a good baby because I'm such a calm person. I wanted to combat that statement immediately because inside my own head, I sure don't feel calm! But I realized that was the best compliment I could have gotten. Even through all the questioning myself, the overwhelming feelings, and the endless information, I've found a way to stay relaxed, and I think it's due to a little piece of advice I received: I can't compare Finn or myself to any other baby/mom duo - cause we are two of a kind!